Good Evening

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Yes, it’s me although I am not sure how long, but I will slowly begin to relate the events in my life again.

Some may know and some not, but my husband with his 82 years was beginning to feel the weight of age. I did my best at home with assistance from our local helpers, but I was feeling the pressure of an almost 24 hour job no longer having enough sleep during the night and after a conference with the family, doctor and connections with the first aid group it was decided he must go to the geriatry ward in the local hospital, after which he would go to a so-called holiday bed in a local senior home with the option of being able to stay there. He is now in the home and will be staying there. After 53 years of marriage (it was our wedding anniversary 2 days ago) I am now recovering from the stress and he is now settling in quite well in his new “home”. The first day was not so good, a shock for him, but he has now settled. I can visit every afternoon, it is only five minutes along the road. Needless to say I miss him and he misses me. Duting the time at home our feelings were strained due to the problems, but now we have both calmed down and we take things how they come. I think I have never had such a crisis in my life.

I am still organising things, there is a lot of official steps to be taken with various documents, and I now have to deal with a lot that Mr. Swiss always dealt with, but I am learning.

My No. 2 son was going to visit at the week-end with the family, but Covid change the plans. On Friday the 4 year old grandson had develped the Omicron virus which is quite widespread now in Switzerland. Naturally his 2 year old sister also now has it. The fever has now gone and they are on the slow road to recovery. My son and his wife are also now tested positive for the virus and the completely family are in five day quarantine. Luckily they have enough groceries in the freezer to get through. The grandson picked it up in his Kindergarten.

Sorry for the bad news, but it seems that is all I have. It can only get better I hope and the sun will rise again. Whether I will be here regularly I do not know, but if things develop well, I will be on my way again on my scooter with the camera.

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  3. Thank you very much for checking in with your update. I have been concerned with your quietness but also confident that you would pop in here when the timing was right and you were able. It sounds as though both you and your husband have gotten some relief from the new changes in your living arrangements, and I’m sure the opportunity for better sleep will help you feel more like your regular usual self over time. I am sad for you and Mr. Swiss for the necessary changes but it seems like the best solution for an unfortunate turn of events. I am also so very sorry that your extended family contracted Covid. It is fortunate that it was not spread to you and your husband but I feel that *something* should be done to prevent school children from being carriers. Please keep your photos and writings coming when you feel like, and know that people like me are thinking of you.

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    • I never thought that growing old could be so complicated. Normal body functions are no longer normal. I thought I could desl with it, but it was not possible and with my MS problems even less.

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  4. It’s great that his new residence is close by, and you can visit. My wife works at a long term care facility, and often spouses wind up being separated by great distances.
    I am so sorry for the difficulties you and your family are facing, but thank goodness that the resources are as good as they are.

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    • It is a small market town and I had a choice. I knew someone that went to this home a few years ago and it is very near, although there are two other places also good and nearby

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  6. Pat–It is so good to see you back here; I was worried about both you and Mr Swiss. I’m glad Mr Swiss is close by, and you can visit every day. I wonder how many of us will go through something like this with a spouse and now, because of what you have written, have some idea of what it will be like. I hope the days get better for the both of you. And that your son and his family recover quickly from Covid. Much love. ❤

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    • Although I will not be visiting every day. With time we will have our routine. I might even meet him in town when he goes with the home staff for a trip with the others in his wheelchair into town. Some manage well with age, but Mr Swiss did not. He lost a lot of weight and his back had suffered considerably. He also had balance problems and now needs a wheelchair more than just a walker.

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  8. I’m so sorry to read that it didn’t work out for Mr. Swiss to be at home, but it sounds as if you have made the best decision for both of you. You will soon settle in to your new life. It is good that he is not far away and regular visits will be quite possible — he will be well cared for, and you will have the ability to live a calm, productive life. My thoughts are with you as you adapt to this transition in your life — Hugs!

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    • I suspected this would be the outcome. This year had been particularly different and I did what I could, but it was no longer possible for him to live at home

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  10. It sounds like the best decision and you will develop a new routine around it. It will probably be a stress reliever for you both. Happy Anniversary late, and 53 years is a milestone to be proud of.🤗👍🏻

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  11. I’m glad to see you back. It is sad that you and Mr Swiss must be parted but you could not have gone on as you were. You tried to make it work but I can only imagine how difficult it was. At least he is not far away and when you visit you can have quality time together even if it is not every day. When David was in hospital for 8 months, I visited 3-4 times a week. It was over an hour each way on the bus and I felt that I couldn’t manage that journey every day. Once things are a bit more settled perhaps you will be able to resume your writing on a regular basis. Your scooter trips and photography are important to your well-being as well as being good blogging subjects.
    I’m sorry to hear that your son’s family have Covid. Hopefully it is only a mild case and they will soon be over it and able to visit you. In the meantime, thank goodness for electronic communications.

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    • i suppose i am lucky that my husband is just a short distance along the road. some days are good and others not so much. he sometimes has the feeling he has been deported. Today for the first time in a while i actually took some photos on my journey.

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  13. It isn’t entirely bad news. Marcel has settled into his new digs relatively quickly and that is good news. Your son’s family got Omicron, but are recovering. That is okay news. Not great, but not awful. Life is changing for us. Garry’s having lots of small issues as he moves to 80 in a couple of months. He looks better because I’ve been feeding him ice cream malted milkshakes and he has put on 10 pounds and looks a little bit less like he’s going to fade into oblivion.

    That Marcel is just a few minutes away is good, so while you miss him and no doubt will never stop missing him, at least you can see him as often as you need and don’t have a major journey to get there.

    We are getting old. I feel it. I worry about it. I worry about Garry, me, and how we are going to manage. Yet we keep going because what other option IS there? We can’t go back, so we trudge onward and hope somehow, it will work out.

    I know it’s hard, but maybe it will get easier. I sure hope so. Catch up on your sleep and breathe. At least you have medical care that works for you. I wish I could say the same!

    Hugs and more hugs from both of us.

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    • his feelings fluctuate. Some days he is ok and others he still has the feeling that he will return. i have basically nothing against it, but i know i can no longer take care of his problems. It is not only the physical handicaps but his mental situation. i am now getting to grips with my new life, but he still has problems of adaptaing to the new situation and does not realise how bad a condition he actually has.

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  14. I knew it was a very unpleasantly busy time. I considered going to you blog to see if I had missed something, but also knew that you had more urgent concerns. This does not seem like all bad news though. At least Mr. Swiss is adjusting, and not as resistant as he was earlier.

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  15. Thanks for the update Pat. I was missing your posts. I’m glad that arrangements have been made and now there is someone else with the responsibility of taking care of your husband. Take care of yourself. Hugs

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  16. Since you are mobility challenged, too, and with an illness that gets worse over time, it was never sustainable to keep it going forever. The professional care will do him some good and you will sleep easier, knowing he gets what he needs. You did your best, but you had a weak base to start from with your own condition. And in time you might even have to follow him because of your MS.
    When you are overwhelmed you have to lookout for yourself. You keep going not only for yourself but for your autistic son, too. Though it might be time to get some future plans for him on paper, so his brother has something to act upon when you have to leave the family home, too.

    I wish you and your family all the best in these demanding times.

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  17. I wish the best for you both, Pat. I noticed your absence. Thanks for the update. Such a stressful time for you both but hopefully you will soon have a new routine and can worry less now that Mr Swiss is receiving the care he needs. I hope your family recovers from Omicron soon. It is unavoidable with littlies in school.

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  18. It must have been so stressful for you both. Now Mr Swiss is in a safe place with people who can do all the heavy work and you can relax and take time for yourself. And when you go and visit, it will be like going on a date – courting all over again but as golden oldies 🙂 Looking forward to seeing this year’s photos when the weather is warm enough for you get and and explore once more. Oh, and a belated Happy Anniverary to you both.

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  19. Hi. I read you on a regular basis. I do remember when you shared things were changing. You two were married for a long time. Congratulations! My prayers are with you and your family. I would venture to say that you are dealing with everything as best you can. Take a moment and breathe. Your fortitude is truly encouraging. Just know that you have those of us out here rooting for you! Take care of yourself.

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