Good Morning

Wedding ring

We made it. Today we celebrate 50 years marriage, which is our golden wedding anniversary. Even the weather is similar to 50 years ago, although then there was a little snow in the air. Today it is cold, but no snow, even the sun is thinking about poking through and I can see the clouds again.

This seems to be called the golden wedding anniversary, but if and when you get there who cares about the gold. We just care about keep going and survival is everything. No, we are not going anywhere or doing anything special, just taking it easy. I remember the wedding day. We arrived at the registry office, I think the wedding was about 11.00 a.m. Our witnesses arrived, a married couple (yes who are no longer married) that Mr. Swiss knew for years and Mr. Beda Baumgarner, the registry officer, was awaiting us, dressed in his marriage performing pin striped suit. He began with his words and I just waited for a signal from Mr. Swiss to say something, which was “Ja”. My German was OK,, but not so perfect as today.  When it was all finished we were given our marriage book. Yes no certificate here, but a book. There are spaces for filling in the children’s names when they are born, 14 in all. I only managed to get two filled out over the last 50 years.

Sunrise

There was also a little extra said because I got my Swiss citizenship. I was not only marrying the man of my dreams, but a country. Today it would not be possible as they changed the law that women, as well as men, must wait a couple of years after the marriage and make an application. At that time it was only the women that got it automatically after the marriage.

I was then 22 years old, already living in Switzerland for 2 years. I spent the first 20 years of my life in London as a Brit and the remaining 52 years in Switzerland, 50 of which being Swiss, so I have been Swiss longer than a Brit. I had to produce various documents before being able to marry and swear on an oath at the British Consulate in Basel (it was the nearest official place I had) that I was single and was who I said I am. I handed in all my documents to the authorities in Solothurn where I was now living and they said that they must not be older than 3 months. This meant my British birth certificate, issued in 1946, was not permitted. However, they said they would accept it if in the meanwhile I organised a new one, which I did. I remember being surprised at the Swiss efficiency, as they eventually had both certificates and I had none. About 10 years later I called them to say I wanted the original certificate. No problem: it was in the post the next day. Now that was organisation.

And so here I am, waiting for the next 10 years which will be the diamond one. No wedding photos, we did not really bother. It was a very unorthodox wedding day. I was not dressed in white and had no flowers, but it lasted 50 years.

Of course we have had our ups and downs, life is not life without them, and now we are fighting the onset of becoming golden oldies together, which is another adjustment in life. No, not the onset, we are golden oldies.  I cannot give any advice, and for the couples out there, just follow your nose: that is what I did for 50 years. Some find the right partner and some still have to search, but that’s life.

Offices of the Solothurn Bürgermeister

And this is where we got married, although today the offices belong to the President of the town and the registry office is now in a building on the banks of the River Aare.

Enough sentimentality for today, I have work to do with a vacuum cleaner and mop etc. Mr. Swiss has returned to hugging the bed, and life goes on.

Have a good day everyone and enjoy it. There is always a silver lining somewhere, but sometimes you have to find it yourself.

Registry Office Wedding Solothurn, Oliver and Franzi

42 thoughts on “Good Morning

  1. This is somlovely. Many many Congratulations. We are just behind you. Ours is September 13th. Like you, we wanted a Registry Office wedding. No fuss. Sadly, my mother insisted that we had a church wedding with proper dress etc. Not a big wedding, and she did the Reception at the house. But I will tell you more about oyrs on Seotember 13th. Enjoy your day.

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  2. Good Morning and Congratulations. You got married only a few years after my parents married in 1964. I just got an invitation to a wedding in April, and could not help but think how different marriage is nowadays. Would you believe that even in my generation, I actually knew people who had arranged marriages. They were not strict arrangements, but sort of suggestions that happened to work out very well. They were two of my best friends. One was of Greek descent, so was ‘encouraged’ to marry a particular young man of Greek descent and a promising career. The other was a descendant of the ruling family of Hanoi, who migrated to Saigon before coming to San Jose. He actually tried to date other young ladies while we were in high school, but only the one whom his family had made arrangements for back in Vietnam was a good match; and her family happened to migrate to the San Jose too! People think that arranged marriages are primitive and old fashioned, but they seem to work out better than the new and improved types.

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    • Thankyou. Ours was not arranged and we couldn’t have been more different, him being Swiss and me being a Brit. Even today after 50 years we have our own opinions and likes, but that is what adds the spice to the mixture, otherwise it would be boring.

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  3. This year is 29 and after that, 30. But we were “hanging around” together for a lot of years before that. We’ve known each other since we were kids in college. Sixty-two years and sometimes, it’s hard to believe we are still hanging in there. It took us a LONG time to actually get married. Now, like everyone else, we are just grateful we still have each other when so many others don’t!

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    • I was thinking of this day a couple of years ago, but you never know if you both get there, and we did. Mr. Swiss and I met in April, got together in November and married in February, but it lasted 50 years.

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  4. Dear Mrs Anglo-Swiss, and Mr. Swiss, let me add my congratulations and good wishes for your Golden Wedding today, and for many years to come. Keep on loving each other; the world will go on around you whatever.

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  5. A very happy anniversary to both of you. It does seem a feat to last so long with the same partner these days especially if you married young. Most of the couples I know are on their second marriages. David and I knew each other 40 years and were married for nearly 38 of them. You do indeed have your ups and downs but that’s life, isn’t it?

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